Traveling alone

Before my interrail trip, I had done many short trips alone, a number of international ones semi-alone (on my own but joining a group tour) and many trips with my children as the lone adult.

Nepal – semi solo

But I had never done a month long trip by myself and I anticipated that there was potential to be lonely and perhaps just be fed up of doing everything by myself.

So before I left on my month long interrail trip, I did a number of things to help myself be successful:

  • Started this blog as a way of sharing my day and keeping in touch (brilliant move)
  • Booked to stay in hostels – even though I had never done so before (another good move)
  • Told my friends that I was a little afraid of being lonely and they kept in closer touch with me
  • Was conservative in booking hostels and making plans so that I wouldn’t be caught out
  • Was mindful of security and made contingency plans in the event of my phone being stolen/lost
  • Decided to join walking tours
  • Decided to really make an effort to talk to people around me as I travelled
  • Decided to be courageous and be prepared to sometimes go out of my comfort zone
  • Thought about and appreciated the positives of solo traveling

The positives of solo traveling:

  • You can please yourself
  • In every way possible you can please yourself and do whatever you want (same as the first one I know but it’s a massive one)
  • Plans can easily be adapted to follow opportunities and interest. Eg one day in Vienna I had planned to go to Museumsquartier. However on the way there I saw the place to book the Bratislava boat so I got off the tram. Then I saw an interesting medieval building behind the main road so I went to take a look. Then I fancied a beer and ended up finding a restaurant that was the haunt of Mozart and Beethoven back in the day.
  • Food is easier – you can have a yellow sticker supermarket meal (reduced priced sandwiches/salads from the shop) or upscale restaurant as you please
Solo swimming in Lanser See – I asked a couple to take pics and I chatted to them for a while

There are also challenges:

  • No one to talk to and share observations and thoughts with. That’s a biggie.
  • The onus of planning is all on you. No one to chip in with other ideas.
  • AirBnB/hotels can be more expensive for one person (although I have travelled with hostels and they would be same price)
  • There is no framework at all for your days – no one saying ‘see you in an hour/at 4pm/breakfast at 8 etc etc. This is liberating but also you depend on yourself to make any structure you need.
  • If something goes wrong, you rely on yourself to sort things out. This is particularly pertinent with having things stolen. If my wallet/phone had been stolen, I would have had no one to borrow money/phone from.
Mad mountain day!

I think traveling alone presents some opportunities that are not exclusive to solo travelers but solo travelers are perhaps more likely to take them:

  • Talk to others and learn about places from people who live there – when we travel in a pair or more, a lot of talk is between the group.
  • Learn more about yourself, what do you really like, dislike and need. Focus inwards sometimes.
  • Join together with others for meals or trips. You never know what might happen.

What would you add to these lists?

In summary – be brave and do it. Be smart and put things in place to help yourself be safe and successful. Not every day will be sweet smelling roses – accept that and take it for what it is.

14 responses to “Traveling alone”

  1. Very interesting reflections!

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  2. This is very inspiring Rachel, thank you for sharing.
    I love the juxtaposition of pleasing yourself and having no one to share it all with and how, some days it feels fabulous and other days it’s hard!
    I’m inspired to start journaling.
    Hope to see you soon to hear all about it in person.
    xx

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  3. It is not easy to push yourself out of your comfort zone but if you can, even if it’s ocassionally, then there are benefits to be had. Well done 4 being brave. I think you will have inspired many to give it a try 😃.

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    1. Yes – definitely benefits to be had as you know! When you are by yourself it’s good to be able to deal with knock backs positively by yourself too. And that’s another skill to practise!

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  4. Rachel, it’s always been a joy to read about your interrailing adventures as well as these reflections. It sounds like an incredibly valuable personal trip! Very inspiring. Thanks for sharing.
    Tara x

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    1. Thanks so much Tara! And thanks for reading and keeping in touch – it has helped me feel connected! I look forward to hearing about your summer.

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  5. I relate to a lot that you say Rachel, having been alone now for over 20 years; never been brave enough to do what you’ve done though!!! X

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    1. Thank you for getting in touch. It has been hard at times to go out of my comfort zone but I pushed myself a bit, not too much but a bit.

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  6. I think you have carefully outlined most of my thoughts and reflections on solo travel. I rarely do it, but enjoyed 10 days earlier this year and am planning another 7 days solo extension to a 3 night group trip this coming October. I would add that solo travel can be an encouragement to other solo travellers, or to those considering solo travel. It can give us opportunities to eat with others that would not other happen (once I was asked if I could join a couple of friends and another time I asked another single if they wanted to join me to eat. Both occasions were great and made my day much brighter). Solo travel can mean one travels to places that one doesn’t have to persuade others to go to – my next solo travel is (hopefully) to Lithuania and Latvia. Solo travel is liberating in terms of budgeting and setting one’s own standards for accommodation and meals etc. (zero justification required) I took the opportunity while solo travelling to keep in better touch with some people back home. I wrote 2 very “newsy” long letters by hand – and very much enjoyed doing so, posting them once back in the UK. While solo travelling I often gain insightful perspective about employment / my business related issues. I also let my mind wander and consider future travel possibility far more when I travel alone. Finally – without boasting, one can feel more of a sense of achievement from solo travel compared with group travel. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts. It is kind of you.

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    1. Wow – Latvia and Lithuania! Lovely reflection from you too – the sharing news element sounds similar to what I aimed to do too. Did your hand hurt from the writing? Thank you for sharing – lovely and interesting to read.

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    Colette Gawthorne

    You must feel a massive sense of achievement and although I’ve always thought you were confident and self assured, this must have made you a braver and stronger person. We’ll done!!

    The Blog was great, loved reading about your adventures.

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    1. I loved reading your comments too – helped me to feel connected. I am glad to know that I can do things like this and I may very well do a similar trip in the future. Opens up possibilities.

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  8. I have only done one complete solo holiday on my own, really enjoyed it, Rachel’s observations are right on the mark. I was in Germany for the main part and I have no German, but found if you need info you can certainly approach anyone under the age of 40 and they will have English…
    I lost my phone, which was very stressful but once I got another set up and running, in 2 days, I relaxed again.
    I intent doing a lot more, but I would love maybe meet other like minded, and nearer my age group solo travellers, during my adventure.. I am a very active 71 year old.

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  9. I’ve enjoyed following your travels via this blog, and I appreciate your reflections in this post. Thank you!

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